tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.comments2024-02-06T12:29:18.715-06:00Nerdy FeministA. Lynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00404038071133506982noreply@blogger.comBlogger920125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-44170997476709223522017-05-09T21:21:40.040-05:002017-05-09T21:21:40.040-05:00Bret, I think you're absolutely right. When a...Bret, I think you're absolutely right. When a man is confident in himself, has no trouble being alone and enjoying his own company - or the company of friends - when he is a unique and interesting person and isn't especially looking for specifics from a woman, then that man is seldom found complaining about being friend-zoned. He doesn't have to complain. If a woman doesn't want his company, he's got better things to do. Such a man draws company from both genders due to his confidence and ability to enjoy many kinds of people.<br /><br />As to an earlier point, though, and this has been mentioned many times in social media. Women, in general, don't say no to men. Not only have females been conditioned since birth to not be difficult, there is a stronger reality that many men react violently toward being told no, especially from a woman. A straight out no response, while it could be taken rather innocuously, could also be the trigger for hidden anger. <br /><br />Men who complain about being friend-zoned, specifically, are men who are not usually self-aware, and men who tend to have a lot of hidden anger about how they perceive their treatment from women. They are very entitled. Being told no can cause an angry man to snap. So, no, we don't give a no from a space close enough to be hit. We don't say no to a man enraged. We only say no from safe space, like relative internet anonymity. And, to be honest, even that's not always far enough away to be safe.Calandreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09997870090443504277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-46309670210690242312017-05-06T08:02:13.938-05:002017-05-06T08:02:13.938-05:00Right on point! I checked out what a few other blo...Right on point! I checked out what a few other blogs had to say on this topic and I was surprised by how non-feminist they were, even the ones claiming to be feminist! Katniss is a great role model and your post is well-educated and really gets the good points with great comparisons to other popular characters and what's wrong with them. Stephanie Ukkolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14378922157885857179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-89363909715972077252017-05-01T20:31:33.345-05:002017-05-01T20:31:33.345-05:00Yep, and leave feedback I did! Yep, and leave feedback I did! A. Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151168796057980778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-69462888271852354072017-05-01T20:27:49.936-05:002017-05-01T20:27:49.936-05:00Ugh, that's awful. Was there a chance for audi...Ugh, that's awful. Was there a chance for audience members to leave feedback for the conference organizers? I can't imagine that the issue hasn't been raised before... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-34633378272019603112017-01-22T23:16:48.433-06:002017-01-22T23:16:48.433-06:00Lovely piece of writing. In my later years, I hav...Lovely piece of writing. In my later years, I have become a Pilates teacher. From that perspective, I can confirm what you are saying. I'd also like to add that we all, each and every one of us, regardless of what our body is or is not or what we think it should be or not be, needs to love and admire our body for the wondrous thing it is. Love it, use it, move it, feed it. Do what you can do, today. With that thought, I am off for a half-hour meditation.Susan S-Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02100300767134387805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-53226137444913014442016-12-07T08:10:12.303-06:002016-12-07T08:10:12.303-06:00In its day it was controversial because it was a s...In its day it was controversial because it was a sone about premarital sex, not date rape. In fact the movies showed to seens one with a man and one with a woman being agressive. It was seen by many as the fiminist anthem of the day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7MFJ7ie_yGUAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07881195664872191432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-64466272151825370982016-11-27T21:10:19.947-06:002016-11-27T21:10:19.947-06:00Since this topic has posts that began in 2013, con...Since this topic has posts that began in 2013, continued in 2014 and then 2015, I'll be the first to chime in for 2016! In response to the comment from Sevenfold, there can truly be no credible justification that "women are expected to prefer veggies, so meat can actually be a feminist act."<br /><br />No, it can't. It is only a justification. Mother cows are raped via forced artificial insemination. It does not look like tears of joy that a human mother experiences when AI is a blessing to her and her dreams of a family. It is horrific, heartless, painful. The dairy industry depends on perpetually impregnating cows and ripping their babies away from them. If their babies are female, they meet the same fate, the same "purpose." If their babies are males, they become veal--a concept so abhorrent that even many meat-eaters refuse to eat it. Yes, the veal industry exists because the dairy industry exists. Forcefully raping and impregnating mothers and then ripping their babies away from them is something many feminists would fight to their death to prevent. Cows are gentle and deeply nurturing mothers.<br />The cry of a mother cow and baby being separated:<br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SRywQqDP38g<br /><br />The fate of male babies:<br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oTGe41A8Vo<br /><br />The suffering of millions of mothers:<br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2H5pQvDlp8Y<br /><br />More and more kids and teens are going vegan and spurring a new inspiring global rise of compassion:<br />https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/27/the-rise-of-vegan-teenagers-more-people-are-into-it-because-of-instagram<br /><br />It comes down to this, my beautiful sisters: We are running out of excuses. No, let me amend that point: We have already run out of reasons, unless of course the reason was "I never knew...I never understood it this way before."<br />If not for the mothers (which should be enough) then for compassionate activism. Activism that starts with our plates.<br />Equality is meant for everyone.<br />Compassion is meant for everyone.<br />Kindness is meant for everyone.<br />And "kindness for all" is not "hard at all" to practice!<br />I deeply love my fellow human sisters and brothers and love giving and serving those in need; I consider it my highest privilege and duty.<br />I do not need to be asked if I love humans more than non-human animals, or vice-versa. Love is love, and compassion is compassion.<br />In my humble but firm opinion, one cannot be feminist, or pro-life OR pro-choice or an animal lover if one patronizes the meat and dairy industry. Because to do so is harming mothers, denying Life, denying Choice, and advocating Speciesism.<br />It is within my deepest core set of values not to judge others on their path because each of us has to arrive at certain conclusions in our own way and in our own time, but I will suggest the following: if you haven't really looked this issue in the eye, seen the barbaric footage, and truly investigated this horrific industry, you've still got some work to do in your activism.<br />More and more people opening their eyes are going vegan everyday. They are rejecting the cruelty overnight (or in a single heartbeat!) and adding their voices for us to awaken our deepest compassion with the simplest of activist efforts: to stop eating slavery, torture, death, rape, abuse, fear, pain, suffering, misery. Surely this is what every feminist stands for? Strives for? Envisions for ourselves, our future, our children? Surely this is the crown of our legacy. All you have to do is change your menu. My best wishes to all of you sisters with your courageous voices, that you do one day soon draw this connection. Perhaps the way has led you here, and perhaps the time is now?<br />With much love.Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13859014578728013747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-46066336393764444642016-10-17T23:30:22.745-05:002016-10-17T23:30:22.745-05:00Hey. I wondered how you felt about how intersectio...Hey. I wondered how you felt about how intersectional feminists have critiqued the film. An hour into the film I think you see three non-white character, one with no lines on a stretcher. The other the delivery guy. One a central character but a stereotype.<br /><br />I agree the film is important and I don't give a shit about reboot complaints or meninists thinking this film ruins their childhood, but as a woman of colour whose childhood playtime stories were restricted to only black characters who were either minor or stereotypes... it doesn't do much for me or girls that are younger and look like me.LF Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03637205400833350470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-62260203717794550382016-09-12T02:17:24.710-05:002016-09-12T02:17:24.710-05:00I’ve recently watched this movie several times for...I’ve recently watched this movie several times for an assay I wrote on Korine. And though I did not analyzed from a feminist perspective in the assay I could not have avoided giving a lot of thought to this issue in the movie. <br />The first thing I want to say is that what I’m saying is not that this is a “feminist” movie, in the sense that it is not about women and men. It’s about the cultural depiction of sex and violence.<br /><br />I don’t want to get too much in to what Korine was trying, in my opinion, to say, since writing in English is not that easy for me. But I will point out some of the ways he undermine the exploitative visual tone to create a subversive cultural saying -<br />First of all I cannot agree that the heroines are not the story tellers, apart from the fact that there is no scene without one of them, they are given voiceovers rolls, which is the must blunt way in film to say – this is the person telling the story. We are always aware of their motivations and always have their perspective on events -and not anyone else’s.<br />Second - the movie does actually pass the Bachdel test - and more than once – at first it seems like a stupid point to make, but considering that there are not a lot of movies that do it’s a point worth making.<br />Third – though they are depicted in a sexual way by their costumes and by the way they are shot, they do not have sex unless it’s by their choice in a relationship where they are at least equal. They are never victims of their own sexuality. In a culture where sexual assault victims are often accused of “asking for it” by being “too sexy”, that is an empowering statement.<br /><br />Number four – they have a lot of control over their actions, and more over they back each other up in their choices. That is most apparent in the l scene where Selena Gomez’s character chooses to leave – she is able to stand her ground to Alien without helped and is completely backed up on her choice by the other women and does not criticize them for choosing differently – and that is an amazing display of solidarity – feminine or otherwise.<br /><br />Fifth- this is a personal opinion – I don’t think that this movie is sexually arousing- its depiction of sexual imagery, except for the sex scene at the end (which in my opinion is justified for symbolizing the bond between them), is always deliberately excessive and repulsive, and is parodying and criticizing sexuality in pop culture. <br /><br />by now I think I’ve made enough points to say that this movie is not as exploitative as many regard it – like most of Korines work its ambiguous in its saying and, once given thought, rises more questions then it answers which is by my standards the sign of good art . <br /><br />יואב בלמן - yoav belmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17077574244749452839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-45482809692585350002016-08-30T05:54:02.757-05:002016-08-30T05:54:02.757-05:00Oh my lord!! I wish I came across this some time a...Oh my lord!! I wish I came across this some time ago. I'm so sick of this metaphor. It's disgusting and frankly quite ridiculous for my vagina to be compared to a lock. Like wtf? You made so much sense! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13263465567625568726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-14708640394397010022016-08-27T15:20:44.044-05:002016-08-27T15:20:44.044-05:00Yesterday a Facebook friend of mine made a casuall...Yesterday a Facebook friend of mine made a casually sexist comment on one of my posts, and I told him I didn't think it was funny. Oh, boy. He did not like that. He went after not just my sense of humor (or lack thereof) but my intelligence and my mental health. I know this is far from uncommon, but it's not something I have to deal with often in my personal life. So when some dudebro's fragile masculinity is disrupted and I get a deluge of insults for it, it wakes me up all over again. <br /><br />Thank you for your insight. Sarah Rae Benchleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09315440875799865995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-15508376097538395852016-08-26T00:10:28.046-05:002016-08-26T00:10:28.046-05:00If it was a clear case of the magazine editor forc...If it was a clear case of the magazine editor forcing a dominant woman uncomfortable with nudity to this position there would be an issues. However, this is Lana del Ray, who has included objectification and submission as part of her brand and self expression. <br /><br />The reaction above is unfortunately common. Instead of discussing issues there is an instant personal attack, belittling and snark. I am a woman and by no means feeble. I enjoy both sexual submission and domination, am comfortable in my own body and found Lana's picture simply beautiful. Not as a blanket statement of gender superiority (I hate the concept), but because Lana is portraying her own sexual choice of submission in public. The issue is that she is being judged for it. If feminists forbid women from having the choice of their own sexuality, there is something seriously wrong. Not everything needs to be over generalized.em`liahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17668528502570305985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-88499424055802934052016-08-19T04:43:35.816-05:002016-08-19T04:43:35.816-05:00You know, this whole idea reminds me a lot of narc...You know, this whole idea reminds me a lot of narcissism.<br />There is a book about narcissism with the title of "Will I ever be good enough?" <br />The answer is no. Not for a narcissist, not for someone who calls you sexist or racist or finds other fault with you.<br />With a narcissist, you go through different stages (at least, I did):<br />1. Denial, self-defense: No, I refuse to define myself as the bad person you tell me I am!<br />You are frustrated: Everything you do and are is wrong. You are repeatedly told this, you are ridiculed, berated. Every single small thing can cause a huge blow up: You put on your shoes the wrong way, greeted the person in the wrong way, look the wrong way, said a wrong word, gave them a wrong comliment. You want to sccream: I AM TRYING I DON'T WANT TO BE CRITICIZED FOR EVERYTHING!<br />2. Doubt: Possibly I really am not as good as I thought?<br />Possibly <br />2.5 You refuse to try anymore, you become "difficult", "sensitive" and "stubborn"!<br />3. Trying: Okay, I will leave everything aside, all my personal needs and for once try to be the person you want me to be. Do everything for you exactly the way you want me to, never complain, never talk about myself, praising you, degrading myself.<br />You get no praise for this. First, you are frustrated. Then you move on to step 4:<br />4. You treat the narcissist like a child or mentally challenged person. They have a handycap. You don't take them serious anymore. You know how to behave around them so as to minimize outbursts, yelling, humiliation, accusations. You have learned to remove yourself emotionally, not confide in them, not see them as an equal person, but as a needy person, as someone you cannot open to, but rather as someone you have to be careful around and treat in a way that will minimize damage to you: Praise them, do everything they want the way they want it degrade yourself - but not meaning it, minimizing contact, going home, being yourself.<br /><br />If you say intent does not matter, you drive people who are most likely to be accused of something - basically everybody in contact with others who like to accuse people of causing offense - to go through these steps. In the end, offense will be minimized but the ones defining offense - the women, the people of other races, different sexualities etc.- will not be take seriously anymore.<br />Everyone was brought up to strive to be a "good person" by being considerate, polite, friendly, helpful, open. Now they are told, they will never be, especially if they are white, or male, or straight, or even cis (majority of people). They will go through these steps and in the end, will stop trying. Will stop being open. Will minimize talking to others. Don't ask, google. Don't cause offense. Don't make yourself vulnerable by repeatedly experience that you cannot ever be "good". Accept this, but, if you want to stay sane, only on the outside. Hide. Keep to your own. Don't try to get to know "other" people, you might cause offense and experience yet again that all your efforts are worthless, your are worthless, you are never equal, always at the merci of others to tell you how you should view yourself (as a racist, a sexist, a homophobe, ableist person. This especially hurts if you someone dear to you is of another race, female, disabled, homosexual or of a different sexuality, transgender etc.pp.Fidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961601106724833521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-9293939668128945822016-07-26T22:45:30.801-05:002016-07-26T22:45:30.801-05:00This incident occurred over 40 years ago. I was a ...This incident occurred over 40 years ago. I was a college student walking 2 miles to the bus stop after an all night film festival on campus. I dressed down wearing an out of style coat which my aunt spent 25 cents for. I looked quite the opposite of sexy. I was aware of my surroundings. Along comes a white car with a NY license plate. Inside was an overweight man with warts on his face. His shirt was white and his sweater was black. He pulled over and reached out for me. I was terrified! I was able to get away and he followed me. My mind was in survival mode and I had to think quickly what should I do next. His car was still following me and when I approached my bus stop I had to hide behind the display windows of the store. My heart was in my throat as I could see him riding around looking for me. He could not see me so he decided to drive away.#JanieUnknownWriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09008777315599623328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-47907541284385351922016-07-23T20:21:54.005-05:002016-07-23T20:21:54.005-05:00Rihanna is being irresponsible in her choice to go...Rihanna is being irresponsible in her choice to go back to Chris Brown. Thousand, maybe millions of young women look up to her, whether she like it or not. Being a role model is part of being a celebrity. It is the celebrity's choice to decide whether they are a good or bad role model and I cannot understand someone wanting to be a negative role model for people, especially young people. Going back, Rihanna had the chance to get away from Chris Brown after just one incident. A lot of domestic violence victims are forced to remain with their abuser because the are blackmailing or threatening to kill them. The abuser could also have abused the man or woman so much, the victim might not have the will to leave and might be too mentally wounded. Rihanna had the chance to get away, and it is insulting and disrespecting the millions of abuse victims in the world who don't get the public spotlight, that she did not do the smart thing and move on / leave him in the the dust. It is not her responsibility to take care of him.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00611887835684298204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-90385083576488162892016-07-20T02:28:06.637-05:002016-07-20T02:28:06.637-05:00I totally agree with you!! Thank you for the posit...I totally agree with you!! Thank you for the positive proton packs! Here's what I wrote about the movie:<br />https://www.facebook.com/notes/andrew-van-ostade/the-ghostbusters-are-back/10154199283195661Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11253191735217114311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-761529141308075512016-07-15T19:34:41.684-05:002016-07-15T19:34:41.684-05:00Hi! Came across your blog while searching for like...Hi! Came across your blog while searching for like-minded people I might be able to learn something from in the blogosphere. And now I am even MORE excited than I already was to see Ghostbusters - especially after my head exploding every day from all of the "salty fanboy" comments - so, thank you.The Single Serial Monogamisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17802108501804066592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-5830920532079412492016-07-03T21:05:05.411-05:002016-07-03T21:05:05.411-05:00Funny thing about the saying "Blood is thicke...Funny thing about the saying "Blood is thicker than water" is that that's not actually the full phrase. The full phrase was ACTUALLY "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb", referring to blood shed during battle. The phrase actually means that one has a stronger bond with those they've gone through a struggle with than their relatives.theradicalacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457354043252206819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-87944003637717870392016-06-22T09:17:23.821-05:002016-06-22T09:17:23.821-05:00There is no such thing as a "Friendzone"...There is no such thing as a "Friendzone"<br /> There is only unrequited love on a case by case basis. Anyone using this term male or female needs to examine their own behaviour patterns with the opposite sex. Guys.. when you know you want someone go for it make a move, and Girls when you know you don't want someone express your rejection clearly. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136386902542033169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-33336297621327140672016-06-16T11:35:57.585-05:002016-06-16T11:35:57.585-05:00It is accepted that transwomen seek breast augment...It is accepted that transwomen seek breast augmentation to "embrace their natural femininity" but you must remember that to do that, one must accept that breasts are naturally feminine and lend to one's identifying as a woman. Why then is it wrong for ciswomen to seek the same femininity to help themselves identify more fully as a woman? Many women do not develop much in the way of breast tissue, and many women lose almost all of it through child bearing and breast feeding. Left then with a body that no longer fits with who she identifies as, surgery may be her only option to reclaiming her "natural femininity".Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13788143754121555279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-1590279368547757652016-05-31T15:27:21.735-05:002016-05-31T15:27:21.735-05:00^ My sentiments exactly, Sasha. I hate to admit th...^ My sentiments exactly, Sasha. I hate to admit that Dr. Phil is a huge guilty pleasure of mine. I DO watch it religiously and feel ashamed of it because I know just how terrible he is to women. In my defense, I spend a lot of my time watching the show pissed off, practically yelling at the TV, thinking how I would like to criticize him. It makes me sick that he portrays himself as a sweet ol' country boy who just wants to help people, who with his celebrity status and nationwide audience really COULD make a difference and help, but instead he chooses to cater to the masses for ratings and perpetuate misogyny and rape culture. I am by no means a supporter but as an outspoken feminist and activist, I watch the show in the spirit of "knowing your enemy."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01949409254041885905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-73039794880365261682016-05-26T18:02:49.814-05:002016-05-26T18:02:49.814-05:00thank you so much. i'm doing an essay for engl...thank you so much. i'm doing an essay for english on the mpdg trope and the deconstruction of it, and this is a great article to help me get to the ideas behind ruby sparksthanks palhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01774682865672873959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-79494865017541974992016-05-11T22:41:42.859-05:002016-05-11T22:41:42.859-05:00I am the Legislative Liaison for RI Amnesty Intern...I am the Legislative Liaison for RI Amnesty International, and a former advocate for woman and children. Just writing this will get me in trouble. Why? Not all of the Amnesty Chapters are in agreement with the sex work policy. It has layers and layers of complexity and controversy. One, let me say I AM all for a woman being in charge of what she does with her body. I can't stress that enough to you, all in! However, and there are a lot of however's to discuss, what you don't know is the global impact of the sex work policy. Trafficking of woman has drastically increased with the passing of laws in Germany and other countries , the pimps are riding on the back of our policy and children, yes children are being snatched off streets and sold into slavery. And now the pimps and brothel's have carte blanche to continue to exploit our fellow sisters. Yes sisters the whole thing is a big mess of proportions we can't begin to fathom. I am on a gag order to not discuss my opposition to the sex work policy , which by the way, is shrouded in secret meetings and a veil of subterfuge. Sex workers have banded together, and rightly so, to stop the abuse and stigmas they deal with from society and the judicial system. My opposition is to the details of the policy, the way it was forced down our throats on the local chapter level and now we are all under a gag order to keep our mouths shut or face losing out membership. Amnesty has gotten off the beaten path. Our initial goal has always been to advocate for Prisoner's of Conscience, that is and was out goal, now am I to defend a pimp his right to use woman, children and even sell them in the black market of slavery? Not likely! Now other groups are joining amnesty in bulk to further their agenda. THE NRA has attempted to buy membership to gain control, who is next? Well, did you know that a back door member, one of the biggest Pimps in Europe, is on the board? No wonder the language of the policy is to exonerate pimps from litigious action both criminal and civil with the passing of this policy. As I said, the layers of the policy and the controversy are far reaching and $$$$ signs are at the root. And of course, the continued dehumanizing of woman and children. Most of whom, do NOT choose this work. Example, when your daughter's reached the age of 17 and you started to look at colleges to attend did anyone ask their daughter if they wanted to major in Economics or Prostitution? I doubt prostitution was on the table for discussion. I worked with a lot of prostitutes as an advocate for victims of crime, most wanted out , most did not choose it, it chose them. Most felt trapped by the emotional damage to their self esteem, most felt they could not earn as much doing anything with the skill set they had. Most, told me they wish they could quit. It is complex. It does not , in most cases, raise the bar for self development or self esteem. I just wanted to chime in as I am getting ready to put Amnesty to task on overturning the policy. starbun33@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17547031815099776222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-46650038515989812352016-04-05T10:49:08.000-05:002016-04-05T10:49:08.000-05:00Dude- we are being too damn fragile to men. GET OV...Dude- we are being too damn fragile to men. GET OVER IT!! I'm a romantic for sure, but being a single mom put my feminism in hyper drive. Now I've found and been dating a very romantic man with the biggest freaking ego I've ever come across. Wtf?!? He is trying to be 1940's old school and that just isn't how I role. If I want to carry the groceries- don't take them out of my hands and say no. I am a fully capable woman who owns all the tools, builds furniture, I drive and work on my own diesel truck, and grow my own food. I want him to be romantic, but don't take away my independence at the same time. The worst part is when he asks me what is wrong and I start to tell him- INSTANT bruised ego and all hell breaks loose. Now I'm forming a resentment that my feelings aren't a valid subject of discussion (regardless of him asking me to share them), because he cannot bear to hear that his chest puffing, bold, save-the-damsel routine is not only NOT working, but it's actually doing major damage to my self confidence. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01073303099020954927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3349382186889721635.post-43055821340063476662016-03-28T00:27:22.247-05:002016-03-28T00:27:22.247-05:00Yea, really wonderful article and realistic as wel...Yea, really wonderful article and realistic as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11747111667326725571noreply@blogger.com