Sometimes I feel like I got a different social rule book than other people. I just can't, for the life of me, understand why asking someone about their future plans to have kids is a seemingly acceptable --nay an expected--question to ask a married woman in her late 20's.
I mean, I understand if you are close friends with the person and you are discussing general life plans/whatever, but people I have just met quite often inquire about my interest in procreation. And older people will sometimes even remind me that I'm in my "best years" for that stuff right now.
How did such a deeply personal inquiry become publicly acceptable? I'm genuinely curious!
This subject is one which could invoke any number of really uncomfortable things for the askee. For example, what if that person is already trying to have kids and is struggling with fertility issues? What if they just miscarried? What if they have never and will never want kids in the first place? With that latter situation, if the woman asserts that she doesn't want kids, you can bet that someone will tell her that she'll change her mind or that she's too young to know now or that her "clock will go off"--blah, blah, blah. As if this stranger knows her better than she knows herself! And even if she does change her mind later, what business is it of yours, as a random person, to undermine the opinion she just shared with you?
It's all so odd to me. Even though I do plan to have kids (a kid?) someday and the actual answering of this question is relatively painless for me, I can't help but think of what a shitty situation it is that people just ask this willy-nilly.